Your first time? Losing your virginity with an escort
Virginity is a loaded subject to say the least, but if there’s one surprising paradox, at least as far as I see it, it’s that losing your virginity doesn’t actually make you feel all that different about yourself or about life - but you need to lose your virginity to have that insight in the first place!
Be that as it may, being a virgin past what’s considered a “normal” age can weigh heavily on a person. We live in a time where people often feel alienated, with limited opportunities to meet other people for sex and romance, but where we are simultaneously surrounded by images of sex and romance, half-insights into the lives of other people, which make us feel inferior, as though we’re somehow missing out on one great big party.
Rather than allowing inexperience to turn them bitter, some men turn to escorts in order to lose their virginity, to finally get it over and done with. I definitely think this is a better choice than letting your inexperience gnaw on you. Escorts provide a safe, non-judgemental space for you to gain experience at your own pace, without fear of humiliation, without the pressure to perform. Sex is a skill that takes time to learn, and it can be daunting to try to enter into the game feeling like everyone is already way ahead of you (though they may very well not be half as confident as you think, in reality!)
I’m grateful to those of my clients who chose me to be their first; it requires a lot of trust on their part, and I do my best to honour that trust. In my experience, older virgins aren’t fundamentally damaged or insufficient in some sort of way; sometimes it’s just bad luck, missing the boat at a certain age and struggling to catch up, sometimes there have been medical issues at play - whatever the reason, my virgin clients have been very kind and pleasant men, not at all fitting the stereotype of the bitter incel. (Of course, if they had, I would have rejected them anyway. A bad attitude is the absolute biggest obstacle to happiness in life.) I hope they’re all happy, confident, and content, wherever they may be these days, and that their journey has taken them to a good place.
It takes a lot of courage to leap into the unknown, but it’s that leap into the unknown which creates worlds. Perhaps you’re ready to take the plunge?
With love,