How to make your first meeting with an escort run smoothly
As promised, here comes the follow-up to my last blog post, DOS AND DON'TS WHEN BOOKING A COMPANION. This post is a handy guide for first-time (or returning!) clients who are asking themselves how to act when meeting an escort or companion for the first time. As always, I only speak for myself as an independent escort/domina in Berlin, and expectations differ. However, I don't believe I'm a massive outlier, and a regular sense of respect and politeness will take you pretty far.
Preparation: Hygiene and ambience
Unless you ask me not to, I will arrive freshly showered, teeth brushed, and so on, at your door, and I would like the same from you. Floss, use mouthwash, brush your teeth, shower, clean properly with soap, and use deodorant. It's not easy to be intimate with someone who has bad hygiene, and I don't like having to ask you to take a shower or brush your teeth in the middle of the session. Awkward as it may be - I will ask, and it will cut into the time you have booked, so if you neglect your hygiene you're also wasting your own time and money. That would really be a shame!
As for ambience, it’s great to make sure your place is clean, without dirty clothes, takeout containers, et cetera lying around.
Outfit requests
If you want the companion you're meeting to wear a specific outfit or item of clothing, unless you've seen it in her photos, it's good etiquette to buy it and bring it yourself, or at least offer to pay for it. I wouldn't suggest asking for an outfit just before a booking when your provider may already be on her way to you.
Payment
Ideally, you should pay without having to be asked at the beginning of the session - this reduces awkwardness significantly. You can also leave the fee in a visible place in your room, or, if meeting in public, I suggest putting it inside of a book, gift bag, or similar, if you want to be discreet.
Unless previously discussed, don't assume you can pay with a bank transfer at the beginning of the session - these can take hours to arrive and no serious companion will engage in any sexual activity before she's been paid. Definitely don't assume you can pay with PayPal - their policies towards sex workers are extremely hostile and I do not use them.
Greeting
A simple hug or even just a smile and a hello is plenty when setting eyes on a stranger - we'll get to the hot stuff later in the booking when we're comfortable with each other. I've occasionally had clients meet me at the door and try to greet me with a big sloppy kiss - for God's sake (and mine, and yours) please don't do this.
Communication
I like to sit down and discuss what we're going to do during our booking, even if we've already talked about it over text, just to make sure we're on the same page. If you want to do something with me, or to me, that hasn't been discussed, please ask with your words instead of your hands. The worst I'll say is no!
Drinks, gifts, et cetera
It's not obligatory, but I always like being asked if I'd like something to drink - alcoholic or non-alcoholic. I'm very fine with you drinking a bit of alcohol if it takes the edge off. Straight-up drunkenness has its drawbacks, as I'm sure you can imagine. I love arriving to a little gift, I think it's really sweet, but, again, it's not obligatory.
Closing remarks
How good your experience with a companion will be, depends a lot on how you treat her. Put someone at ease, make her feel respected and valued, and she will return the favour ten-fold. And there's few things better than that.
Lastly, don't feel too self-conscious after reading this list - if you're even asking yourself how to make another person feel good, you're already halfway there. The kind of people who would be reading this list are exactly the kind of people I want to meet. Reach out, I'm only a message away.
With love, and see you soon...