Your first strapon experience

Do you secretly dream of being pegged by a woman? The subject may be somewhat taboo in polite company, but trust me - far more men harbour this desire than anyone would guess.

Men of all sexual orientations can get a tremendous amount of pleasure out of prostate stimulation - in my opinion, it's a shame not to try it! Many men have entrusted me with being their first strap-on experience, but I've also pegged many for whom its a usual part of their sex life. When I ask my clients if they would ever discuss their love of anal strapon sex with anyone in real life, the usual response is, "of course not!" Many are fearful of even bringing it up to their wife or girlfriend, or have already brought it up and been rejected. (There is a small minority of men with extremely open-minded partners. Salute to you and your partners!) 

Seeking out a sexual professional is a great way to experience a new fantasy without judgement, to put yourself safely in the hands of someone experienced, understanding, and enthusiastic.

So, what's good to bear in mind for an enjoyable first time strapon experience?

1. Atmosphere

It's totally normal to feel nervous for your first (or even second, or third...) time, but your body needs to be relaxed to feel pleasure. This is where communication with your partner (whether that's a temporary or long-term connection) comes into the picture. Settle in comfortably with each other. Make sure the environment is pleasant, clean, not too warm, not too cold... 

My favourite way to start a strapon session is with a long, indulgent, sensual massage, naturally leading into a prostate massage as foreplay. This allows the other person to relax his entire body, to get used to my touch, and to simply sink into enjoyment. 

2. Hygiene

Making sure that you are reasonably clean helps to make the experience more relaxing both for you and for your partner, so you can focus on what really matters. Generally, a really deep enema isn't necessary for strapon sex, but you should have gone to the bathroom recently, and cleaned yourself afterwards, ideally in the shower. Putting a glove or condom on your hand with some lube and putting a finger or two inside yourself, washing them off until they come out clean, is in my opinion ideal. 

3. Size

If you've watched a lot of strapon pornography, you may be used to watching people get penetrated with very large dildos and other sex toys - however, anal play takes warm up and practice, and if you're experienced enough to take on massive toys, you probably don't need this guide! Start small and start slow. I like to start with a prostate massage - I love the flexibility of fingers which allows you to stimulate small spots very precisely - before moving on to my smallest toy and seeing how far we get. Less is really more sometimes... of course, sometimes, more is more.

4. Aftercare

Penetrative sex is an intense experience, physically and emotionally! It's best to not just rush out the door, but stick around, cuddle, and come back to earth together with easy conversation and gentle touch. Until the next time you relive the experience...

I hope you'll feel confident to pursue your fantasy. You only live once!

If you're willing to trust me to be your first, our meeting is just a message away.

With love